Thursday, February 10, 2011

Every so often art imitates life.

 For any of you who have been patient enough to keep checking in on my blog even though I have kind of pulled away from posting, I thank you.  My last post was a bit dark and sad, but the day I wrote it I had a lot to get off my chest.  It helped me a great deal to get it out.  I ask that all of you who know me, keep me accountable.  My life is in a transitional period, and every day is like my birthday.  God has left me little presents all over the place to unwrap and enjoy, all I have to do is seek them out.   Every day I learn new things about myself.  Well, that isn't really accurate.  They aren't new, they are old lessons, which at different  points in my life I had a good grasp on.  Years of being too tough to pray for help had left me stripped of these lessons, and needing retraining.

Most recently, a love mishandled had forced me to "look up".  There is nowhere else to look when you are lying on the ground.  It is funny, but as soon as I started to "look up" I started to heal.  I started to remember the purposes I had in life.  My goals became more clear, and my smile came back.  It was a wonderful revelation of a lesson we all need to know.  No matter how low we are, no matter what we may have done, no matter how alone we feel, there is a power within or reach at ALL times which can bring us peace.  Look up.  Okay, don't literally look up, but seek out God's grace.  Ask him to fill you with the power and discernment to see whatever challenges you face through.  One of my favorite quotes came from my days at New Brunswick Bible Institute.  I can't remember the source, but it goes like this:

"God will never place a mountain in your way, without equipping you with the proper tools to walk around it, climb over it, or simply blast right through it." - unknown



An old friend posted a song on her Facebook page today.  Ironically, it is called "Perfect" by a band called Hedley.  Lyrics are below te video

Falling a thousand feet per second, you still take me by surprise
I just know we can't be over, I can see it in your eyes
Making every kind of silence, takes a lot to realize
It's worse to finish than to start all over and never let it lie
And as long as I can feel you holding on
I won't fall, even if you said I was wrong

I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
Cause that's what I said I would do from the start
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave
Was it something I said or just my personality?

Making every kind of silence, it takes a lot to realize
It's worse to finish than to start all over and never let it lie
And as long as I can feel you holding on
I won't fall, even if you said I was wrong

I know that I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
Cause that's what I said I would do from the start
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave
Was it something I said or just my personality?

When you're caught in a lie and you've got nothing to hide
When you've got nowhere to run and you've got nothing inside
It tears right through me, you thought that you knew me
You thought that you knew

I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
Cause that's what I said I would do from the start
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave
Was it something I said or just my personality?

I'm not perfect, but I keep trying
Cause that's what I said I would do from the start
I'm not alive if I'm lonely, so please don't leave
Was it something I said or just my, just myself
Just myself, myself, just myself

I'm not perfect, but I keep trying


So, here it is.  I am not perfect.  I am far from even slightly acceptable.   I won't stop trying.  I can't afford to.  


Neither can you.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

"Lies do not become us."- Westley

I want to share a little story.

I was in love once. I thought I had met my dream woman.  I adored her in every way.  I loved her family, and they accepted me as one of their own.  This didn't happen overnight of course, there was a period of pursuit and getting to know each other.  I spent months trying to prove myself, my worth, my intentions.  It was quite a journey.  She was very astute, and had been down this road before.  I was so in love...

Well in the act of sharing my past with this woman, I left out a few details.  At the time, I didn't think too much of it.  It isn't like I sat down and decided to deceive this woman.  In fact, I was much more open with her than I had ever been in the past in my relationships.  My nature has always been a little on the cloak and dagger side of things, and I was actually surprised at how easy it was for me to open up.  Over the months ahead, more and more layers were peeled back in the getting to know each other process.  I had many opportunities to fill in the blanks I had left, but I was worried that these few details would shed me in a lesser light.  I continued to let them slide.

We continued to fall in love.  It was an amazing journey.  It was interesting and challenging at times, every day I loved a little more and every day I felt a little more accepted in the life of this woman.

Well, the details I glossed over eventually came to the surface and I was asked about them.  I was "called out" even, and I finally had the chance set the record straight, and  to pull back that final layer, but out of fear of what I thought would happen, I made up a lie.  I didn't mean to.  I didn't want or intend to.  I just did.  I was transported back in time to being a 5 year old boy with crumbs all over his face when his parents ask if he had swiped a cookie from the cookie jar.  I should know better by now.

Well, over the next months, my lie turned into 2, 5 a dozen.  It was a tailspin I didn't know how to correct.  I saw the crash landing coming, and I knew I would have to come clean, but I knew that this little omission from over a year and a half ago had spun out of control.  I was about to lose my mind over it.  I had a very poor view of myself and my worth in the relationship.  All because I thought i would look a little bit better way back when this topic first came up.  The problem is, what I stood to lose way back then, would have been much easier for me, but more importantly for the woman I had grown to love even more dearly and the woman's children, who I had also become very fond of, and who had become very fond of me.

I know that now she thinks that the man she grew to know, and the man she fell in love with is nothing but a liar.  I am sure she wonders what else I lied about.  I am sure she questions everything I had ever said to her.
The truth is, no other lie had ever passed my lips in our relationship.  Just this one topic.  Just this one secret i refused to let go of.  I didn't give her the ability to decide if she could live with the truth from the beginning, and now i know she can't live with the lies.  I underestimated her.  The heart and compassion of the woman I fell in love with were much bigger than the issue I held back from her.  It may have taken her some time to think about it all.  It may have taken me a little longer to progress along the relationship path with me, but I know she would have acted much differently than I feared when I first pulled the veil across.

Well, now I have come clean.  Through a sequence of circumstances, I proceeded to ruin her birthday, and I knew I had to just get it out.  I have shared the secret in it's entirely.  I have pulled back the veil and let the details I had omitted come to light.  I had let it eat me from the inside for several months, and it was literally robbing me of the tremendous joy that this relationship had provided.  It had taken a toll on her as well, and i hated that it was.  To tell the truth meant losing her.  To keep lying made me feel like a freshly spooned out avocado.  Hollow, flimsy and pretty much useless.

She took it much the way I feared she would way back at the start.  We had been struggling very much lately, mostly because of the hole that was eating me with this half truth and how it had burrowed deeper and deeper into the love I feel for this woman. 

I don't blame her.  What seemed so innocent so many months ago, has cost me the most important thing in my life.  I sit here humbled and ashamed, and pray that the hurt I have caused can be healed.  I doubt that I will ever be welcomed back into the family as I had been, I doubt I will ever again hold the hand of this woman I love so dearly.  I will carry on, bury myself in my work, and play as much hockey as I can, and hope and pray that I have learned this lesson, once and for all.  I will miss what I had.  I will miss the laughter of the most beautiful little girl i have ever had the privilege of knowing.  I will miss the most perfect hug I ever experienced.  I hope I have not done any irreversible damage. 

"What a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive."- Sir Walter Scott

"We are men of action, Lies do not become us."- Westley

Where is that time machine when we need it?

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Math, History, Full Body Pat Down, English- "A day in the life of today's high school student".

OK, first of all, let me say that i know it has been some time since I have posted on the blog.  For those of you who were checking in regularly, I apologize.  I have had a busy last week, getting used to the travel that comes with my job, arranging for a move to a house a few cities away, and lots of other little things that made it difficult to follow through with my goal of writing every day.

I have decided that there are three things I WANT to accomplish every day.  Write, exercise, and read from  book before falling asleep in bed instead of watching TV.   Of course, there are many other thing in the run of a day that I hope to achieve, but generally speaking, if I accomplish these three things, I find that my day stays more on track than if i don't, and i definitely have an easier time falling asleep.

So far, morning has proved a difficult time to write, even though it remains the best option.  Sometimes, days like yesterday come around on the calender and throw a huge monkey wrench in the plans.  I was scheduled to be in Atlantic City by 7:30am to speak in a high school.  I had 7 classes to address, so it was going to be a full day.  I'd have to leave at 5:30am to be there on time, as AC is roughly 90 miles away.  Well, the storm came rolling through on Tuesday night, and classes in AC were delayed two hours, which meant they all got shrunk down from 40 minutes to 25.   It also meant that I had until 9:30 to arrive, but with the snow, my commute went from an hour and a half to about two and a half hours.

This was a bit of a concern, as I am still getting familiar with much of the information I use in my presentations. Chopping out 15 minutes, from an already truncated presentation, basically without having a whole lot of time to go over it, had me a bit flustered.  

Anyway, I spent part of the drive mentally preparing myself, considering how to "reader's digest" my plans for the adjusted schedule.  I arrived at the school at 9:25am.  AC High School has roughly 2300 students who attend.  It's a BIG school.  I parked my car about a 1/4 mile away,which was still only about half way to the end of the parking lot.  It was bitter cold, and the storm was bringing icy winds across the lot.  The Atlantic Ocean surrounded the school grounds on two sides and wasn't being kind this morning.  As I opened the hatchback of my Subaru and began packing my materials to go inside, I looked out across the water and had a funny feeling that the ocean was angry at me, at us, for not canceling school outright today.  The storm had claimed about 98% of the state, closing every other school district in NJ for the day, and  here I stood a few hundred yards away from the mightiest of Mother Nature's elements.  I wondered if it was possible for the ocean to feel emotions.  I giggled a bit at the thought as the Atlantic continued shaking her proverbial fist at me for daring to venture out when she had given us such a beating.  I bet next time she comes even harder.

As I rounded the corner of the school and approached the main entrance, I was a bit perplexed with what I saw.  Hundreds of students were lined up outside, in a few large "huddles".  As I neared them, I heard a voice over the PA say, "All last names starting with D through F".  This prompted one of the huddles to move toward the doors and slither through.  When I got to the entry, a gentleman in a security uniform directed me to the right side, where staff and teachers had been entering.  I got to go in despite my last name starting with a "C".  Being an adult has some mighty fine perks!  I felt a building sense of curiosity about what was going on.  Why were the students all herded together by last name?  Why did they have to stand out in the icy cold before going in?   I walked through the doors, and my curiosity was satisfied.  All 2300+ students had to pass through 4 sets of metal detectors, a pat search and a bag search before being allowed to start their studies each day.  At first I was amazed at the level of security and the efficiency I was observing.  This was no less stringent than what you would see at the airport, although no shoes had to come off.  I was a few minutes early, so I paused and watched all of the remaining of the 2300+ students pass through the check point.  This was more the picture one would expect at a super max prison, or a high level restricted area military area.  I think I actually had to catch my jaw as it dropped, with me staring in awe.  No sooner did the last student pass through and make his way off to his home room, than did I get a huge pit in my stomach.

"What has become of us?"

I know we have all seen flashbacks in the movies, how a shot will fade out with a cloud effect, or a blurry wave will cross the screen and  on the other side the actors are transported back to an earlier point in time.  At this moment, I was brought back to my high school days, and Atlantic City High School was replaced with the foyer at Park View Education Center.  I could see the pop machines and a set of stairs up to the second floor off to the right as I walked in the main entry. The administrative offices lie to the left.  Straight ahead were school jackets, and athletic trophies in the glass cases which separated the cafeteria from the foyer.

I saw students huddled in their cliques,moving about freely, laughing, joking, mostly without a care in the world.  My bus arrived about 30 minutes before first bell, and this was serious social time for me.  I would sometimes play a game of cards, or shoot baskets in the gym.  Sometimes I would just hang out with my girl and make goo goo eyes for half an hour.  Other students crammed in assignments they had put off the night before.  This was actually my favorite time of the day.  Every morning started this way.  I remember vividly many mornings, and many of my friendships being forged more deeply in these moments.  It was a good memory indeed.

The alarm bell rang and brought me back into the present.  There was very little socialization going on among the student before home room here.  Security personnel  lined the hallways, with whistles, like a basketball referee, blowing them with alarming frequency.  It reminded me of watching sheep herding competitions.  "Keep moving!"  "Remove the hoodie!"  "Get to class!"  Whistles were blown following every statement, three, four, five times.  Students listened and when they were the target of an instruction, they knew it and responded quickly.  The halls were cleared within moments and the few stragglers that were still hustling to homeroom when the second alarm bell rang, literally went into dead runs to get where they were supposed to be.

This was very impressive and twice as scary.  It had the efficiency of the most thoroughly planned out military strikes.  This is what our children are forced to go through every morning so they can get the most basic of educations.  What picture does this paint of the world for these young impressionable minds?  How did we get to this point?

Well, unless you have been in complete seclusion the past two decades, you know that these procedures are in place to avoid such tragedies as the very recent and fresh in our minds mass shooting in Arizona.  It all started in 1966 at the University of Texas.  15 people killed by a sniper, including the wife and mother of the shooter, before police marksmen killed him.  I don't recall very much of this stuff of this stuff happening in the 80's.  Maybe I wasn't paying attention, being the teenager that I was, but in '89 the mass shooting in Montreal got seem to have gotten the ball rolling.  More and more frequently, incidents began to stream into news rooms through the 90's. In the the new century we have never had to go too long before the next act of school yard violence got major news coverage, and  claimed more innocent lives.  Whenever I hear the words Ecole Polytech, Columbine, Virginia Tech, I instantly think of the atrocities that occurred there.  These measures are an answer to the question we all ask sometimes:  I wonder where will the next attack happen?  Not at Atlantic City High School. 

Hundreds of lives have been lost at the hands of unstable people holding guns and knives, some armed with bombs.  Families have had loved ones ripped from their lives due to senseless acts of violence.  Schools seem to have become a favorite target for people wishing to do harm in this manner.  So much so that in order to keep the hallways and classrooms safe, metal detectors have been introduced into many schools.  Whistles are blown and orders barked at students who aren't in dress code, or who pause to chat for a moment in the hallways.  Freedoms I took for granted when I was 17, are no longer part of teenager's lives.  The gunmen and women who perpetrated these horrible crimes, not only took innocent lives, but they have changed the world, for the worse, forever.  High schools all over have become super max security prisons, and it is the right thing to do.  While I despise the fact that this is all necessary, I recognize that indeed, it is.

As I finished up my day yesterday at Atlantic City High School, I walked back down to the main entrance to leave, and I passed one of the security personnel, and he said, "Excuse me sir, can i see your visitor's pass?"
I hadn't really thought about it prior to this, but I was wearing a long black overcoat to help keep me protected from the stormy weather.  I was carrying 3 large satchels, and had on a black winter hat, much like you would expect to see a bank robber pull down over his face just before exclaiming, "Everyone get DOWN!"  I didn't blame the gentleman for stopping me.
I dug around in the pockets to find my pass and after fumbling through every pocket it wasn't in before finding it, I handed it to him.  He looked at me, looked at the pass, and said, "Thank you very much Mr. Carey, have a great afternoon."

I looked back at him and took my pass in my left hand and held out my right to shake his.  He took my hand and I looked him in the eye and said, "Thank you sir, for keeping these students safe."

Say a prayer for the schools in our countries people.  They are charged with as important a job as there is in our society.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

What is a fair price to pay for an efficient automobile?

My intention when I started this started this project was to write an entry every day, as I sipped on morning coffee and while my dreams of the night before were still fresh in my mind.  I sit here this morning, and I realize that in order to do that, then I have to get myself out of bed a bit earlier than I have been.  I am by no means a late riser, but I am a bit wordy at this point in my writing.  I think I get the point across, but my goal as a writer is to be as clear and concise.  I find myself rambling on a bit, sometimes getting off topic, which adds to the word count pretty quickly.  m Basic math teaches that more words means more time.  Knowing that I have to dedicate at least 90-120 minutes to this task every day, and that I should be getting out on the road by 7:00am or earlier for my job every day, something has to change.  I had thought of switching up writing time to after I get back from my travels, or to the evening after dinner perhaps.  I may yet do one or the other.  For now, there is something about the routine I have laid out that I prefer.  Writing my piece in the morning is like a sunrise jog for my brain.  It gets the juices flowing, and hones my focus, lasting all day long.  It makes me more effective in just about everything I do for the remainder of the day.  So, having said that, tomorrow I am getting up at 5:00!

I have been reading quite a bit about how to host an effective blog in the list few weeks.  I have changed up the design and layout of the site more than a few times because of tips I have read.  Then I had a thought.  "Why am I concerned with what other people are doing?  This blog is about me, and about my readers."

Sure there is advice which would be applicable but lets bring this baby along together, like parents of a new born.  If there are things you would like to see, share with me.  If there are better blog hosts out there than blogger, educate me.  If there are topics of interest that you would like to read about and discuss, suggest them.  I have said that this is a half a million followers project for me.  I mean that, but along the way my vision is for this to become a daily stop, like the evening news, or the "funny pages".  People get up, check emails, look at Facebook and the sports scores, then stop here, at Blunder Years.  I want to increase interaction somehow, and I have had a few people mention that leaving posts here is not as easy as I would like it to be.  I have discovered that in order to post here, or to follow the blog, you have to have register with the Google conglomerate.  If you have G-Mail, then you are all set already, if you don't then, it is a necessary step, to get a Google ID.  I am not one to leverage my readers into this type of thing, but I will say, over the course of my online career, Google is the best free email I have experienced.  I have had Yahoo, Hotmail, Ymail, and a few others, and the only time I stopped looking for a better solution for my personal email, was when I was invited to G-Mail.  So, I have no real problem with saying, go ahead, sign up!  I don't want to make work for anyone, and want the interaction on this page to be as simple and easy as can be, but for now, while I am using Blogger to blog, I ask that you do this.  So far, 9 posts in, I would say I have put in about 30-40 hours of work on writing, and on managing this site.  I am doing this for my own reasons in part.  I am also doing it for you!  The whole process takes less than five minutes to register, and I think i am worth that!!  ;)

Now, I want to open this up for discussion.

I am kind of in the market for a new car.  My new job has me driving all over the southern parts of the Garden State and Delaware, and the Eastern parts of Maryland.  It is a good territory, manageable populace, beautiful pieces of country.  However, I am averaging 150-200 miles on the Forester every time I leave the driveway,  which is about 3-4 times a week.  I will likely be driving between 800 and 1000 miles a week once I add in personal usage.

My dream solution to this would be to own a Tesla Model S with a 300 mile driving range on a full charge.  It is a very nice looking full electric car, which costs in the neighborhood of  55k.  If you have never heard of Tesla, you owe it to yourself to read up on them.  They are the future.  Take a lookie: Tesla Model S
If i ever thought i could afford a 120k car, i would go for the Tesla Roadster.  Electric car technology has come far enough that in my opinion is the wave of the future!
 Tesla Model S

Tesla Roadster

Well, the fact of the matter is, I can't afford a 55 thousand dollar car, let alone a 120k one.  My upper limit is likely 40k, and even that is pushing it.  I tend to land on the frugal side of the fence you know.  I have looked at all the options that are realistic, and I have come up with the Toyota Prius as the most likely candidate: 


The 55 mile per gallon advertised, with many owners reporting over 60, is the real lure of this car.  I would be able to do my 1000 miles a week on 20 gallons of gas.  My current ride gets me 22 miles per gallon on average.  This math would require upwards of 45 gallons of gas to drive for the week.  At $3.00 a gallon,  I am looking at $60.00 a week in the Prius, and $135.00 in the Forester.  Annually, Prius: $3120.00 a year, Forester: $7020.00.

$2900.00 a year difference between the Forester and the Prius. Now, Subaru has announced that starting in 2012, they will be introducing a hybrid Forester.  Projections are that it will get roughly 35 miles per gallon, maybe up to 40.  While I love Subaru, and have owned 3 straight Subaru's, and want to carry on my loyalty to the brand, money talks.

SO the question I need to answer is this: 

While driving a Subaru Forester is not a proclamation of manliness so much as a practical solution to what needs I had at the time of purchase, is putting what is left of my proverbial balls in a jar (which I believe comes standard with all Prius buyers of the male persuasion) and storing them in the glove compartment, really a fair price to pay for the highly efficient hybrid that Toyota offers?

Please help me figure this out.  Are there solutions i am missing?  What thoughts do you have on the matter?

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Sunday, January 2, 2011

Why I am smarter than Gary Bettman

Day two of 2011.

Day eight of the Blunder Years Blog.

To whomever clicked my ads on here yesterday, thank you!  I earned $3.72 in ONE day!  80 years ago I would have been rich!  If I can find a way to multiply that by 100, I could just write the blog full time!  That would be a dream for sure!

Yesterday was a lazy day,  Got a few chores taken care of.  Took down the tree and put away all the Christmas decorations and cleaned out the basement.  Put in a few hours working on a database I have been poking at for work for the past week.  I think it will take me a good 100 hours plus to get it completed though, ugh.

So far this blog has been used to share some personal stories, and not really to beat my chest too much about anything.  Today is going to be my first rant, and it is about hockey.  I may lose a few of you right here, but I promise not to do this too often.

I am not one that falls for gimmicks easily.  However, I did watch some hockey last night.  Not intently, but I stopped on the Winter Classic broadcast a few times.  I was lucky enough to see all the goals.  I am glad Washington got the third goal to make it 3-1.  It would have been a rough way to lose a game is Fleury's gaff had been the deciding factor.  I have to hand it to the NHL.  I thought that this was a nothing more than a fluff marketing ploy when they first kicked it off in Edmonton those few years back.  After seeing the it's recent successes, I am willing to admit i was wrong.  They have created a marketing goldmine with the Winter Classic.  It is almost NFL-esque.  I am a bit leery about them adding the second outdoor game this year, once a year seems like a perfect frequency.  Once a year people will tune in who don't actually cheer for the teams playing just for the novelty factor.  I do understand they may want to test it out to see if maybe twice would work, but for what reason?   I just hope Bettman doesnt get any bright ideas about bringing the outdoor games to Miami or Phoenix.

Seeing the NHL knock one out of the park with the Winter Classic like this, really makes me wonder where all the smart people are hiding in the head offices the rest of the year.  There is a glaring hole in the NHL's most basic make up these days.  I have been fuming over it ever since it was instilled in the league.  To have this group of NHL executives put together a show as great as the Winter Classic and then for the same folks to allow this major blow to the integrity of the league, leaves me shaking my head in bewilderment. 

I will start by saying that the shootout is just wrong and needs to be removed from the game in it's entirety.  To have contests decided by penalty shots strips away the fiber of the the game. On any given night, teams can win games in any number of ways.  A big hit can swing momentum, a bad bounce can sneak by a goalie, a turnover in the defensive zone, or a brilliant move by a streaking winger can drive the final nail into the casket and decide a game.  On the rarest of occasions, a penalty shot does decide the winner.  The thing is, that no matter what single play decided the outcome, so many things have to either go right, or go wrong in the flow of play for the one single play to have actually happened .  Physical, emotional and intellectual battles are fought every minute on the ice, and their outcomes go a long way to deciding the victors.  A penalty shot awarded in the flow of the game was earned by a team making a good play, and the other team needing to break the rules in order to stop them from scoring.  In this instance, a penalty shot is as exciting as anything in sport.  Having said this, penalty shots are a tiny piece of the whole.  Using "free" penalty shots to decide games would be like major league baseball deciding games with a home run contest.  It would be like the NFL deciding games by seeing which team can kick field goals from the farthest distance, or it would be like the NBA having a three point contest to break ties.  Of all the legitimate major sports out there, Hockey is the only one to use gimmickry to determine victory.  Hockey is a TEAM game, and to place such emphasis on a 3 man shootout, which involves 4 players from each team, isn't in the spirit of the game.  It isn't fair to the other 16 guys on each bench, and it certainly robs any genuine fan of the game of any true resolution.  This is my opinion of course, not everyone shares it.  Most debate about the shootout ends here however.  What needs to be looked at in depth, is what happens after a shootout.

In the NHL, the winning team is awarded two points toward their standings.  The losing team is awarded no points.  Of course this is only true if the game is decided in regulation.  If regulation ends, then the integrity of the game goes right out the window, and that same game, which was worth two points a minute before the clock runs out, magically becomes worth three points now.  The winner still gets two, whether they close it out in the five minute sudden death period, or if they win it in the shootout.  The NHL used to award one point to each team in the event of a tie.  When they instilled the overtime period, they awarded one additional point to the victors, but they let the losers keep the point they would have earned under the old laws.  For decades, when a team was battling for a playoff spot, they could count on all the games being worth 2 points.  If a team was sitting one place out of the playoffs, and the two teams above them were playing each other, they knew that one team would get 2 points or both teams would get one.  Now, the teams ahead in the standings, could potentially distribute three points between them, instead of two, making it all the more difficult to get back in the race.   All they have to do it go to overtime.

If the NHL made divisional or even inter conference games worth 3 points, that would make more sense, Realistically however, in a perfect arrangement, all games would carry equal value, regardless of the opponent or the length of game.

OK, another break from factual evidence to offer my opinion.

This can be fixed in one of two ways.  I'm not talking about the overtime, or the shootout here, I am talking about the gaping hole in the way points are currently being awarded.
1- Go back to the old ways.  Give two points for a win, none for a loss.  DO not award the extra point .
2- Make ALL games worth three points.  You would earn three points if you win in regulation, and if you reach overtime/shootout you would use the current arrangement of two points for the winner and one for the loser.

No other system keeps the integrity of the game in place.  Unless you wanted to go to the MLB/NBA/NFL ways and scrap points altogether and just use winning percentages to determine things.  I like points, and I prefer that the league use a better overtime format, going from five minutes of 4-4, to five minutes of 3-3, and even down two 2-2 and 1-1 if it gets that far, then let it run until there is a winner.   You want excitement in overtime?  Try this format.


So, in conclusion,  I am going to put the vote up to you, my readers.  What say you?  Comments please, and vote in the new poll on this subject matter.

Oh, and by the way, when i asked Gary Bettman about this, he crinkled his forehead, rolled his eyes up in the top of his head, said, "Hmmmmmmm," follwed by a long pause, and continued with, "Ummmmmmmmmmm."
He made this face, and some  noises like a chimpanzee and ran out of the room swinging his arms back and forth over his head.
 =-)

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Every moment provides a do-over for the previous

OK, I cheated yesterday.  I used the lure of booze and sex to pull in a higher hit count for the day.  You were all part of a secret squirrel social science experiment.  My thinking was on track, but I admit, I thought my bogus title would have more of an effect on my hits than usual.  Here is a rundown on the page views for Blunder Years before yesterday's post:

December 24th: 3 veiws
December 25th: 45 veiws
December 26th: 46 veiws
December 27th: 102 veiws
December 28th: 95 veiws

Now, with the title I used yesterday, I admit I didn't give as much credit as I should have to the general public.  I actually thought promises of free beer and sex would entice my friends into tripling the hits on the blog.  I was expecting 300!  Well, while the hits did spike, I am impressed that my Facebook, twitter and LinkdIn friends aren't quite as degenerate as I thought.  Congratulations!  The blog had 168 page views.  So was it worth it to " jump the shark'?  Perhaps some of that extra readership will stick around and join the party on a regular basis.  There were several visitors to the blog who read more than yesterday's post while they were here.  So while my projections didn't come true, I hope that I have gained a few more loyal readers.  That, after all, is the goal; half a million followers or bust!  So, if you haven't signed up to follow this blog, please do.  Also, click on ad link or two.  I work hard writing this, and all I ask is if you like what I'm doing, if you are entertained, help pad my click through's!

So, now that yesterday's subject matter is closed, lets get going on today's:

Last night was TREMENDOUS.  My first Crown Roast.  I promised a picture of the finished product, so here goes:





I LOVE pork to begin with,  more than any other meat I think, and this just solidified it for me.  This was SO tender, so succulent, that I was entirely impressed.  My compliments to the cook!  The rest of the meal and the evening was just as lovely.  The hostess was gracious, elegant, and looked especially lovely.  The company was fun, the banter witty, and I can't think of a better way to ring in the new year!  Thanks so much!

My last meal of 2010 was truly  memorable.  It capped a memorable year indeed.


2010 was certainly an interesting year for me.  I probably learned more about myself in this calender year than in any other in my 40 years.  The process of discovery was not an easy one.  I had heard the analogy many times in the past that in order to make the surface smooth, you need to do a lot of sanding.  2010 was a sandpaper year.  I entered the year with the dark cloud of a soon-to-expire-employment contract hanging over my head.  The last few months of my junior hockey coaching career were sweet indeed as I had a group of young men who came together and fought through some pretty tremendous adversity, to play some of the best hockey I have ever had the pleasure of coaching.  The team rode a high into the playoffs, and soundly beat our round one opponent.  In round two, we faced our arch nemesis, and soundly whipped them as well.  This put us in the final against the league's offensive juggernaut, who we had beaten twice in a weekend series a few months prior.  They lost 4 games all year and we handed them 2 of those defeats in one weekend.  Well, the finals ended with us on the wrong end of a 6-4 score, but we outplayed them in every category, except for the one that counted.  It was a tremendous end to a tremendous season and career.  Bittersweet really, as now I had to move on and find a real, grown-up job.  It took me nine months of trial and error.  In those nine months, I experienced some of the most challenging times of my life.  I never hit the proverbial "rock bottom", but I was as close as I had ever been.  I believe in myself, and that never ceased for even a moment, but I made some crucial decisions and was too pig headed to admit that I had made a few huge mistakes.  Well, as difficult a trial as it was, I learned so very much about myself, and about people, and about life in the real world.  I can't help but be thankful.  I don't think I would ever want to re-live 2010, but I know it will go a long way toward my future prosperity in all facets of my life.

So today, as I look back on 2010, I see the intelligent design, and I am thankful.  I would like to think that all my rough edges have been worked away with the sandpaper that was 2010.  That would be assuming too much however.  I realize that I am a continuous work in progress, and there will be no end to that process for all my days. 

So, now I have the task of deciding upon my goals and ambitions for 2011.

My mom has Facebook.  Just about everyday she posts something inspirational for all her family and friends to read.  A few days ago, she summed up my entire "now".   I had been looking for a quote to dedicate to my new year, and had actually decided on one, but when I saw my mom's wall, I had a discovery moment. 
"No one can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending" (Unknown)
Simple, effective, powerful, and perfect for 2011.  No matter where I find myself at any time, this quote has the power to thrust me forward.  Even if things are going great, applying this quote can enhance even that.  Basically it means that we don't need New Year's to make a resolution. 
Every moment provides a do-over for the previous.   
If you are in a rut at work, if you have been putting off starting a new hobby, if you haven't been able to find the words to say to someone special in your life, this quote should empower you to pull yourself out of that rut, pick up that paintbrush, and say, "I love you."  Armed with this quote there is no excuse for every day not being better than the last.  Sure these are just words, but if you stamp them on your heart, and apply them to your inner most psyche, things will start going your way, and fast.

My resolution for 2011 is:  I resolve to make every day better than the last, for myself, my loved ones, my boss and co-workers, and basically for everyone I touch in the run of my day, everyday. 
Oh yeah, I also resolve to promote my blog shamelessly and by all means available until I reach my goal of half a million followers!  
Happy New Year everyone.  May God bless you with peace, happiness, joy and health.  Now click my ads!

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